“A couple live together, their libidos are matched, and they have a lot of sex. “Women crave novelty and variety and adventure at least as much as men, and maybe more.” She talks me through what she says is the classic pathway for women when they marry or commit to one heterosexual partner long-term (the research has so far concentrated on heterosexual couples more work is needed on gay women’s sex lives). In fact, argues Martin, the exact opposite is the case. Because that’s the central fallacy: the belief that monogamy is harder for men than for women. She hopes her work will help validate the feelings of the next generation of young women: “It’s not about giving them permission to ‘cheat’, not even giving them permission to refuse monogamy, but I hope it does give them permission to feel normal if they don’t like monogamy,” she says.
Martin isn’t here to talk about her own relationship, but for the record she’s 53, has been married for 18 years, still lives in New York, and has two sons aged 17 and 10 who are, predictably enough, “mortified” at what their mother writes about. Photograph: Christopher Lane/The Observer ‘Men really caring about what women want sexually makes a huge difference’: Wednesday Martin. It’s when women get married that it’s detrimental to their libido.” We used to think it’s only men who became sexually bored after marriage turns out that’s not true. “Overfamiliarisation with a partner and desexualisation kills women’s libido. “We were taught that men were the ones who needed variety, but the exact opposite turns out to be the case,” says Martin. New findings showed that women reported similar intensities of desire and arousal to men, and “a real shift in thinking” about females and monogamy. Measured on that scale it turns out that women are, in fact, every bit as sexually arousable as men. Crucial, too, says Martin, has been the work of Rosemary Basson, who realised that spontaneous desire, the kind sexologists had measured for years, was only one type of relevant desire, and that responsive or triggered sexual response is much more important for women. It’s no surprise that it was Hite who revolutionised thinking on female orgasm, arguing that it was not “dysfunctional” to fail to climax during intercourse. Women crave variety at least as much as menĪll these men made certain assumptions about women’s sexuality. And even in the subsequent 30 names there are only five women, including both Virginia Johnson (partner of the famous, and male, William Masters), and Shere Hite. You have to scroll through another 25, including Sigmund Freud and Alfred Kinsey, before you arrive at a female name: Mary Calderone (1904-1998), who championed sex education. 7 min 100% Straight men tan naked gay Round Ass On The BaitBus 6 min 98% Groups boy gay sex video Fucking Dudes for the Wifey 40 min hd 97% Straight blond tricked into gay sex 5 min 81% Handsome nude straight gay porn men A Twist On The BaitBus! 7 min 99% Straight teen males nude movies gay Excited To Be On The Baitbus 7 min 86% Real stories of straight men swallowing cum gay A Twist On The 3 min hd 87% Buff Straight Guy Gets Tricked on The Bait Bus (tbb15850) 12 min hd 100% BAIT BUS - Steven Daigle Is On The Hunt For Straight Bait in Miami 12 min hd 98% BAIT BUS - Straight Bait With Amazing Bear Body Gets Tricked In Miami 12 min hd 99% BAIT BUS - Tricked Straight Bait Thinks He's God's Gift To Women 7 min 90% Pilipino fucking cock for gay sex video Ass Pounding On The Baitbus! 12 min hd 99% BAIT BUS - Ricky Sinz aka Mr.Her starting-point is that research into human sexuality has been, historically, overwhelmingly male-centric “notable sexologists”, starting with Carl Friedrich Otto Westphal (1833-1890) are mostly male.